Why You Need a Lindsay

You need a Lindsay. And I’m going to tell you why.

The love of my sister Lindsay AMAZES me. She is one of the greatest gifts in my life. Do you know why? She gives me the most precious of things: unconditional love, and the complete freedom to be myself.

If you’re like me, you sometimes wonder if you’re really unconditionally loved. Yes, people love you: family, spouses, etc.  But let’s be honest. Do you ever feel like they only love you because it’s in their job description? Or perhaps you think they might love you NOW, but if they EVER discovered X, Y, and Z, they would turn and run as fast as they could. Or maybe you feel like if you stop living up to EXACTLY who and what they want you to be, then they will see how unworthy you are of love.

But that’s the thing about unconditional love. THERE ARE NO CLAUSES. There is no job description that they have to live up to. They might discover X, Y, and Z, or maybe they already know it—and it DOESN’T MATTER. And maybe you stop living up to who and what they think you should be, just to discover 1) They never thought that in the first place, and 2) They are just so glad that you’re being YOU that it doesn’t matter HOW you do it.

That’s the second part: freedom to be yourself. This is what I have learned from my sister Lindsay. ImageI can be the exact mess of a person I am, and she still somehow loves me. Not just loves me, but thinks I’m AWESOME. (No, I’m serious, she really does. No bribes or anything.) She thinks my silly words are brilliant and my lame jokes are hilarious. Some days I am depressed and moody and stressed. That’s ok with her. It’s just a good excuse to go get ice cream so we can eat it and talk, cry, or whatever. I can express my worst feelings and most terrible thoughts, and Lindsay listens and wants to hear more. That’s a GIFT, people. It’s hard to find.

But it CAN be found. So here’s your challenge: start looking for your Lindsays. You may not think you can find that love and freedom, but I believe you can. It may be someone you already know, but you simply haven’t realized it yet. Stop trying to fit into their “perception” of you and let them love your imperfections.

So risk some things. Be a little silly. Say something dumb. Let people see the real you…because very possibly, they will LOVE it. That’s what I’m learning from my sister.

I am praying you find your Lindsay, too. And then, be a Lindsay for someone else.

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I heart Sundays with my sister

Have I mentioned I have the most awesome sister ever? Her name is Lindsay. And she’s pretty much amazing.

Me and Lindsay at a younger age :)

Me and Lindsay at a younger age 🙂


I got to see my dear friend Jenny get married yesterday to an awesome guy named Andrew. It was so sweet to be at their wedding; Jenny has been such a dear and sweet friend to me over the past couple of years. I’m so happy for her! I had to leave the reception early, but fortunately it was for a good reason – I picked up my lil’ sister! She just got back from a May-term trip to Native American reservations in Arizona (I know, cool, right?). We had a lovely moment when we got in the car, turned and looked at each other, grinned, and exclaimed “Lindsay!!” (me) exactly at the moment she exclaimed “Katy!!”

So we got to come home last night and chill together. I got to hear all about her trip, and we caught up on other small matters. Then we mostly watched TV and hung out. Sound boring? But it’s not, because we did it as only we can. (It’s true. We make up our own unique kind of interactive atmosphere. No one else can compare.)

This morning we got to go to church together, which is always awesome. I love getting to worship with my sister! The worship time was amazing and refreshing – absolutely wonderful. And the sermon was both encouraging and challenging. We both left in great moods and came home to eat lunch.

Since then we’ve been chilling. It may sound like not much, but it’s been great. We’ve watched some shows together, sat side by side on our respective laptops talking to other people online…yeah, it’s been great bonding time. But seriously! It has. Cuz we keep laughing at each other and saying random things, the awesome and witty comments that only we can appreciate the most because we get each other’s sense of humor.  So it’s been a rather nice, relaxing day, all the better simply because we spent it together.

Random facts:

  • I cannot swipe a credit card into the Sonic card reader with my left hand. I tried 3 times. Something about the timing/angle I manage with my left hand does not work. Only with my right hand did the card slide in just right to be accepted. Crazy.
  • I finally bought the little white-powdered donuts I have been craving for the last day and a half.
  • Awesome quote by my sister – “Deodorant: It’s like food for your armpits.”